Gay actress Heather Matarazzo talks about dating, girlfriend, and sexism in Hollywood

August 26, 2015
First Published On: August 26, 2015

Heather Matarazzo is an openly gay actress who has starred in several films including “Welcome to the Dollhouse,” “The Princess Diaries,” “The L Word,” and “Exes and Ohs.” She is well-known among moviegoers for her wit and outstanding acting skills.

Her life has seen several ups and downs in her long film career. She dated musician Caroline Murphy from 2007 and the couple got engaged in 2008. According to Lisa Jamma, Heather and Caroline were very much in love with each other. They had been dating for over a year and it was actually a love at first sight. The pair was all set to turn their engagement into wedding. But unfortunately the couple broke their relation in 2012 after four years of their engagement.

The lovebirds were planning a fancy wedding in New York but they ultimately split. In spite of the break up, the former couple is said to be very good friends. The actress is currently single now and does not have a girlfriend.

Besides her split with her lover she has been through whole lot of troubles in her life. Being a lesbian actress was not easy in Hollywood then. She was always the second choice for directors and producers alike. She saw countless opportunities slipping right from her hand just because of her sexuality. But her lesbian image was not the only problem that she faced in the show biz. Being a woman in Hollywood, she discovered was a very difficult thing.

In Hollywood, there is still a trend of treating male actors better then the females. The bias has created a barrier between the actors and actresses, which makes it seem like the men are far more superior to women. In a recent survey, it has been found that Jenifer Lawrence is the highest paid actress in Hollywood. But ironically, her earning is less than the highest paid DJ Calvin Harris. This proves that the Oscar winning actress’ income can’t beat the earning of the DJ, which is what sexism always comes to.

Heather wrote on her personal blog about how she was kicked out from the role from a project for which she prepared for two years. She wrote, “When I was 19 or so, I was standing in a Starbucks in West Hollywood with a director, talking about the upcoming film we were about to shoot. It had been a long road, but we had finally made it. Waiting for our coffee, I could see that he seemed a bit uneasy. I asked him if everything was OK. He said yes. I didn’t believe him, so I asked him again. He looked at me and said, ‘Heather, I”m sorry, we have to give your role to another actor. The producers don’t want you.’”

She added, “I didn’t understand. I had been attached to this project for two years, and now two weeks before filming, I’m being let go. I asked him why. He looked me dead in the eyes and said, ‘They say you’re not f*ckable.’”

The actress was replaced by someone more f*cakble and hot and she was given a small and less important part in the project.

After this encounter, the actress has become quite vocal about the sexism that she and female stars have endured in order to pursue a career in Hollywood. Talking to MTV recently, the actress, aged 32, said how the topic of sexism is getting more attention nowadays.

She said, "I've been fighting for equal rights amongst the gay and lesbian community and women's rights for years.

 "It seems as though it's starting, finally, to get more attention, so I feel people are noticing more."

The feminist views of the actress caught the attention of the media as Rose McGowan shared a casting note on her Twitter handle for an upcoming Adam Sandler movie which she found offensive. It urged the actresses to wear "push up bras" to enhance cleavage. And shortly after her tweet, the actress was fired by her agent just because she spoke her heart out against the so-called sexism.

"I just got fired by my wussy acting agent because I spoke up about the bulls--t in Hollywood," she later tweeted.

Heather expressed her happiness as actresses in Hollywood are opening out against sexism.